The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.– Buddha
When our lives are in flux, especially with grief, we can find ourselves stuck, not able to move from the point of pain. We look to the past as the better days to which we long to return, and we worry about how we live in a future without our precious loved one by our side in a physical sense.
It is a natural response to the pain, to stop in your tracks.
But truly, as the quote implies, the only power we can have is on our own present moment. We have the power right now to smile, or to cry. We have the power to see what’s wrong with the world or what’s right. We have the power to choose happiness or despair. We have the power to notice our own failings and weakness, or our strength and resilience.
It is in the present moment that you will find peace. Allow yourself…..even if it is only for one minute.
Take time today to notice where your mind is taking you. Are you living in last year, next year or today?
The present…..it is a gift. Get it?
Have a tremendous Thursday,
Hi Kelly, i read a bit of your blog and was in tears..i lost my husband one month ago. He was 33. I am 29, and i just don't know what to do with my life..am experiencing all the things you said.. grieving, questioning, agonizing.. but somewhere accepting what has happened, realising that there are so many like me..it could have and it does happen to anyone.. life's thrown a challenge at me, and i have no choice to take it. living each day, and trying..
Thanks for your comment Shuu,I am so sorry for your recent loss. Please know that each day, it will become a little easier to breathe…I will pray for you as you approach this holiday season.Take care,Kelly
thank you so much.. i will pray for you too. I do believe in destiny and i think god and destiny decided this for him and for me..i stopped asking "why me" and sympathising with myself the second day of his passing.. Cos i knew there is no point, and nothing will bring him back now. It happens to so many of us. i am at another end of the world and going through the same shock and grief that you went through last year. Such is life.. Prayers to you.