I have often written and talked about the moment I realized I was a bereaved parent.  While waiting for divers to find Stephen, I sat alone on a sandy shore.  At first, I was negotiating with God, offering up my own life for his to be spared.  But when I realized that was not possible, I surrendered.  And at that moment, I knew what I had to do; find gratitude in the little things, appreciate the love that remained, and continue to spread his ripple of love to honor his short but impactful life.  

Years later, I still give thanks daily for listening to that tiny whisper in my ear.  If I had not, I’m not sure I would have survived. 

Anyone who has experienced loss and trauma knows this feeling; standing at a crossroads with no idea how to navigate the trails ahead.  The life you knew has changed forever, and the future is unknown.

Loss is an inevitable part of life and something we all experience as part of our journey.  Whether it’s the passing of a loved one, the end of a relationship, or any significant change, grief can consume us. However, amidst the darkness, there is a powerful healing force that can bring light back into our lives: kindness and gratitude. 

Let’s explore how acts of kindness and expressions of gratitude not only benefit those around us but also provide a transformative path to healing and personal growth after experiencing loss.


The Power of Kindness:

Kindness has a remarkable ability to uplift both the giver and the receiver. When we extend kindness to others, we create a positive ripple effect that spreads far beyond our immediate actions. After a loss, the compassionate gestures we receive from others can make a profound difference in our healing journey. A warm smile, a simple word of encouragement, or a helping hand can provide comfort and remind us that we are not alone. By actively engaging in acts of kindness, we not only brighten someone else’s day but also cultivate a sense of purpose and fulfillment within ourselves.

Connecting Through Empathy: Loss can make us feel disconnected from the world as if nobody truly understands our pain. However, expressing empathy towards others can bridge the gap between us and those around us. When we listen with genuine care, offer support, and acknowledge the struggles of others, we create an environment of understanding and compassion. By recognizing the shared human experience of suffering and loss, we foster deeper connections with others and realize that our pain is not unique. Through empathy, we find solace, shared strength, and a sense of belonging that aids in our own healing process.

Gratitude as a Healing Practice: When we are grieving,  it’s natural to focus on what we have lost rather than what we still have. However, cultivating a sense of gratitude can bring about a transformative shift in our perspective. Gratitude encourages us to acknowledge and appreciate the blessings, no matter how small, that still exist in our lives. By expressing gratitude for the memories we cherish, the lessons we’ve learned, and the support we receive, we invite healing and resilience into our hearts. Additionally, gratitude helps us recognize the kindness and compassion of others, inspiring a desire to pay it forward and create a ripple of positivity.

Spreading the Ripple: Just as a pebble creates expanding ripples when dropped into water, our acts of kindness and gratitude have the power to create a profound impact on the world around us. When we choose to be kind and express gratitude, we not only inspire others to do the same but also create a cycle of positivity that reaches far beyond our immediate sphere. Small gestures, such as writing a heartfelt thank-you note or offering a helping hand, can bring immeasurable comfort to those who are grieving. By actively spreading kindness and gratitude, we become agents of healing and contribute to the collective well-being of society.

No matter what has happened, no matter how broken you feel at this very moment, you always have a chance to choose your path forward.  There’s no start date, and you can’t miss the sign-up deadline. If you choose the path of gratitude and kindness, you will meet like-minded people who will not only welcome you, they will walk with you.  Kindness and gratitude are powerful catalysts for healing, both for ourselves and those around us. By extending acts of compassion and expressing gratitude, we create a ripple effect that touches lives, offers solace, and fosters connections. Healing is not a solitary journey. 

Let us be the change we wish to see by spreading a ripple of kindness and gratitude, for it is through these acts that we find strength, healing, and the renewal of hope, not only for ourselves, but for our world. 

With love and gratitude,