Archive for June, 2011

Pema Chodron-We Just Don’t Know….

June 23rd, 2011 | 1 comment


When we think that something is going to bring us pleasure, we don’t know what’s really going to happen. When we think something is going to give us misery, we don’t know. Letting there be room for not knowing is the most important thing of all. We try to do what we think is going to help. But we don’t know. We never know if we’re going to fall flat or sit up tall. When there’s a big disappointment, we don’t know if that’s the end of the story. It may be just the beginning of a great adventure. Life is like that. We don’t know anything. We call something bad; we call it good. But really we just don’t know. ~Pema Chodron~
Happy Thursday y’all.
Just had to share this quote from Pema Chodron. Read it a couple of times and really think about how it might apply to your life. It really made me think.
It’s all about the way you look at things. For your daily dose of positive perspective, join the new group on Facebook, Just One Little Thing.
Launching July 4th. Please like the page today and join me.
Have a good one,

The Next Leg of the Journey…

June 17th, 2011 | 1 comment

Life is like sailing. You can use any wind to go in any direction. ~Robert Brault~

Hello friends,

First, I want to begin by saying thank you for all the support over the past two years. In life, we truly find our strength, not in isolation, but by sharing and connecting with others, sharing the lessons we have learned along the way. I’ve learned so very much from all of you, and have been so humbled by your response to Stephen’s story. With each person who has connected with me, I have felt his beautiful smile, and have been encouraged to keep writing, keep breathing, to simply keep going. Many days, you have all been my one little thing.

Almost a year ago, on July 4th, 2010, I was at a crossroads of sorts, wondering where to go with this “Gratitude in Grief.” A year had passed since losing Stephen, but I was still broken, still hurting. But, I was also feeling hopeful for my future. I wondered should I continue on this path, or immerse myself back in “normal life.” Whatever normal is anyway…

It was not until I started to clean out my office that the answer came. You see, I looked back to you for my answers. Since beginning this journey, and sharing my story, I have received (and responded to almost all…still working on it :-)) close to 10,000 emails from all of you. Words of wisdom, encouragement, support. In some emails, you bravely shared your own story, and I learned that each of us has a book within us. Many of you told me what you needed.

Hope, even in hardship.

Happiness, even in grief.
The ability to feel grateful for what remains, even in the bleakest of circumstances.


You gave me my answer. And so, I am pleased to invite you to the next leg of the journey,

“Just One Little Thing”

I’ve created a community of gratitude and resilience, a safe place where we can give each other a daily dose of what we need to keep going. The Facebook page is now up, but will be officially launching on July 4, 2011.

Join me by clicking on the link above, and “liking” the page. Then watch for the launch of the 4th! The Facebook page is just the beginning, and we’ve got some exciting plans for the coming months.

My goal is to get as many people to join as we can by the 4th. That’s kind of my little thing for that day. So, invite your friends and tell them to invite theirs. Let’s get the biggest group to continue this conversation. So, start inviting…

Thanks again for sharing so much of yourselves with me on this journey.


p.s. After you like the page, go to the Join My List tab to sign up for Inbox Inspirations, a daily dose of inspiration to help you find your one little thing!

Open to Hope: Inspirational Stories of Healing After Loss Released

June 13th, 2011 | 2 comments


A few months back, I was approached to be a contributor to a new book called Open to Hope: Inspirational Stories of Healing After Loss. I was both pleased and humbled to be asked and naturally, I jumped at the opportunity.
The book’s authors, Dr. Gloria Horsley, PhD, MFC, RN, and Dr. Heidi Horsley, PsyD, LMSW, are internationally recognized grief experts. The mother/daughter team founded the Open to Hope Foundation and are hosts of the popular “Open to Hope” Internet radio show.
Since experiencing my own loss, I have searched for grief support that presented the grieving process with a focus on hope for the possibility of a happy future. I found that in the wonderful resources created by Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi.
So, drum roll please. I’m so pleased to announce the release of the book,
Open to Hope: Inspirational Stories of Healing After Loss
The book offers a path for hope after loss, with expert guidance. It includes stories and validation from close to 100 other national experts in the area of grief and loss. The amazing Dr. Bernie Siegel said this about the book,
“This book is about more than finding hope. It is about the natives teaching the tourists how to survive the pain of the loss of a loved one. Loss is inevitable, but what we do with it is a choice we must each make. If you want to recover and turn the charcoal into a diamond by using the pressure you are experiencing, read on.”
Bernie Siegel, M.D.
Author of 365 Prescriptions for the Soul;
Love, Medicine & Miracles; and Buddy’s Candle
The book is available at local and national bookstores, as well as all online booksellers such as, or directly through For more information about the book or the Open to Hope Foundation, visit .
I am excited to be part of this, and have part of my own story within the pages. I hope it will serve as a light in dark times for many who read it. As Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi so eloquently put it,
Lean on our hope until you find your own.
Take some time to check it out!

The Gift of a Brand New Day

June 2nd, 2011 | no comments


“You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call ‘failure’ is not the falling down, but the staying down.” ~Mary Pickford~A brand new day. How many times have you arrived home, flopped on the couch, turned on the TV and sighed, thinking, “Thank God that day is over.”

We’ve all been there. A day we wished would simply end.

But let’s be honest. How many of us, that very next morning, begin our brand new day thinking about all the negatives of the day before. How many of us let all those cumulative bad day negatives compound until our brand new day doesn’t have a chance.

We need to practice at wiping the slate clean. And before some of you send me the email saying you cannot erase your past, let me finish. I don’t mean forget or erase. I don’t mean “move on”, because as someone who has lost, I know how those two words can sting. I simply mean that life is important enough to deserve a second chance.

We have to be willing to start with a fresh new canvas, and give each new day the chance it deserves. If you are brave enough to release the hurts of the past, your world can open to all the possibilities that exist for you. You need to make room for the good stuff.

So, tomorrow, when you sit on the edge of the bed, ready to face the world, think of yourself as a blank canvas. Your mind, and your thoughts are your paint.

What masterpiece will you create?

Go be an artist,


Have a listen to Joshua Radin in this quirky but applicable video. Love him.